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Dr. Steve Dennis quotes from the book, Punished by Rewards, written by Alfie Kohn, states, “Bribes don’t effectively motivate children in the long run. They buy temporary compliance, but do little to change the heart or long-term interest in the enterprise for which the reward has been given”. So what works to motivate our children? Dr. Dennis continues by saying, “our goal as parents is to help our children develop enduring interests and behaviors that will open the windows of heaven in their behalf. Actively teaching, modeling, and cultivating a love for the internal and authentic reasons for acting will help children become agents unto themselves”.
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Another suggestion in learning about motivation, was to integrate service into the learning plan. This helps build character and helps kids learn with everyday situations. I loved this idea because it is something that keeps the focus on learning and helping others and not focusing just on yourself. It is nice to give back to the community or those who are in need. It also teaches us to live and act as Christ would if he were on the Earth.
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According to the article in JSTOR DAILY, Joanna Pocock states, “Although most parents and educators agree that some praise, or, more precisely, ‘positive encouragement,’ is critical to developing children’s self-esteem, the keys are to limit it, to keep it focused, and to be honest with it. If we applaud everything our children do simply because they have done it, then we are teaching them that mere existence is enough.”
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In conclusion, she said, “It is up to us to see that the children in our midst are presented with the mess of reality, with their failures as well as successes, with joy as much as disappointment. We owe them more than plastic gold medals for participation: We owe them the ability to confront complexity. It is our honesty—and not our distracted “wows”—that will provide our children with the skills needed to live in the real world, the one that lies beyond the bubble of constant praise.
References:
Dennis, S. (n.d.) What’s the Problem with Bribes? Retrieved from: https://byui.instructure.com/courses/61834/assignments/2017781?module_item_id=5641052 on 09/01/2019.
Pocock, J. (February 22, 2017). Are We Spoiling Our Kids with Too Much Praise? JSTOR DAILY. Retrieved from: https://daily.jstor.org/are-we-spoiling-our-kids-with-too-much-praise/ on 09/01/2019.
Sweatt, L. (November 3, 2016). 17 Motivational Quotes to Inspire You to Be Successful. Success. Retrieved from: https://www.success.com/17-motivational-quotes-to-inspire-you-to-be-successful/ on 09/01/2019.